Wisdom No. 19
It is the process, not the outcome, that is most important.
I am still learning this one on a daily basis. My mind gets so easily caught up in the finished product, in where I want life to take me, or how I want things to turn out. If I was Astrologically inclined, I say it was my Capricorn nature that drives me to focus on the achievement end of things. Being goal oriented is fine! But if that's all we value then we risk missing the beauty of the moment and wishing away vast tracts of life. For example, we may never realise a particular dream or outcome. In fact,by the time we get there we might want something different anyway. Or perhaps life has just taken us on a different course.
All the growth, all the learning, all the joy, all the challenge - 99.9% of what there is to gain is in the process of getting there. If you just got there, say by winning lotto, or someone else buying you your dream car, or being given career breaks because of family connections, then you would certainly miss all the value of the journey and be left with that measly 0.1% - which I suspect would feel bitterly disappointing and hollow.
One of my loves is writing for example. Yet it is very easy for me to get caught up in, where will this writing take me, will I create a bestseller, will I be able to make a living from it, and when I think like this I reduce the very thing I love to that 0.1% and drain all the joy from it. When I manage to write, like I am now, from my pure passion for it, then I am invested in the process and enjoying the journey just as it is, unconditionally loving what's happening, and there is immediately more growth, joy - the payback is instant!!
Travel is a great metaphor for this same concept. When we are focused on the end of the journey, the process of getting there becomes tedious, and undoubtedly we will run into troubles, conflicts, challenges...The whole trip will be arduous. Whereas if we focus on the process, on each interaction as we go along our way, on the little moments, on our breathing, then I guarantee you your journey will be richer and more rewarding, even if you face the same challenges, run into obstacles, whatever....
Where in your life could you learn to invest in the process of getting somewhere, rather than in the destination itself?
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
The Meeting of Opposites
Wisdom No. 18
Wholeness, if achievable at all, is only possible through the conscious meeting and reconciling of the opposites in our nature.
Wholeness, if achievable at all, is only possible through the conscious meeting and reconciling of the opposites in our nature.
Monday, August 9, 2010
Fulfill Your Life's Purpose
'Purpose is what gives life a meaning" Charles H Perkhurst
I have just completed a personal Mission Statement, as well as one for my business/career. My partner is doing the same, and then we will do a collective one for our family. I can highly recommend this process to everyone as a way to gain clarity and align your daily and yearly goals with your deepest values and principles.
A Mission Statement is something we are familiar with in organisations, and they are often poorly thought of by people. In short, Mission Statements have a bad name, not because they are pointless, but because they are rarely used effectively and consciously.
A Mission Statement for you as an individual is simply a brief sentence about your purpose on the planet. It should answer the questions: Why are you here? What is your core purpose? And what do you want to be remembered for when you are gone?
A good way to start is to do a mind map or just brainstorm on some paper all that comes to your mind when you read these questions. Take a few minutes to do it now.
Now you might want to put it aside for a while and as I say "let it compost" - then come back to it in a few days. When you come back to it, take the most powerful words and try to arrange them into one short and clear sentence about your life's purpose.
Once you have the Mission Statement down and feel satisfied, you can develop your vision and life goals. Your Vision is a statement about what you want to achieve. It is good to focus on at least 1-3 years, but looking even further into the future can be helpful and inspiring. Your vision statement must be big and bold and really inspiring.
Personally, I took a big sheet of white paper and wrote down the key roles in my life (partner family member, friend, community member, psychologist, artist etc) and then underneath each one wrote a list of things I most wanted to achieve in each role. I then put some rough timelines against each of the goals.
On a separate sheet, I drew a circle for each of the core 'pleasure' activities in my life (yoga, photography, writing etc) and then similarly wrote goals underneath each.
Finally, on a third sheet, I broke my work life down into interest areas and then jotted down some goals under each heading.
You might also want to write down your key values and principles. These are the core beliefs that are driving you towards your goals and they link directly to your Mission Statement.
Stephen Covey speaks about the value of taking yourself through this process regularly as part of his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Writing a personal mission statement is part of Habit 2, Begin with the End in Mind. He says this exercise focuses us on "what you want to be (character), and do (contributions and achievements) and on the values and principles upon which being and doing are based".
I have adapted Covey's activity somewhat, but the general principles is the same, and you would be well rewarded to visit his original text for a full review on this topic.
Wisdom No. 17
Get clear about your life purpose and find ways daily to bring it into being in who you are and what you do.
I have just completed a personal Mission Statement, as well as one for my business/career. My partner is doing the same, and then we will do a collective one for our family. I can highly recommend this process to everyone as a way to gain clarity and align your daily and yearly goals with your deepest values and principles.
A Mission Statement is something we are familiar with in organisations, and they are often poorly thought of by people. In short, Mission Statements have a bad name, not because they are pointless, but because they are rarely used effectively and consciously.
A Mission Statement for you as an individual is simply a brief sentence about your purpose on the planet. It should answer the questions: Why are you here? What is your core purpose? And what do you want to be remembered for when you are gone?
A good way to start is to do a mind map or just brainstorm on some paper all that comes to your mind when you read these questions. Take a few minutes to do it now.
Now you might want to put it aside for a while and as I say "let it compost" - then come back to it in a few days. When you come back to it, take the most powerful words and try to arrange them into one short and clear sentence about your life's purpose.
Once you have the Mission Statement down and feel satisfied, you can develop your vision and life goals. Your Vision is a statement about what you want to achieve. It is good to focus on at least 1-3 years, but looking even further into the future can be helpful and inspiring. Your vision statement must be big and bold and really inspiring.
Personally, I took a big sheet of white paper and wrote down the key roles in my life (partner family member, friend, community member, psychologist, artist etc) and then underneath each one wrote a list of things I most wanted to achieve in each role. I then put some rough timelines against each of the goals.
On a separate sheet, I drew a circle for each of the core 'pleasure' activities in my life (yoga, photography, writing etc) and then similarly wrote goals underneath each.
Finally, on a third sheet, I broke my work life down into interest areas and then jotted down some goals under each heading.
You might also want to write down your key values and principles. These are the core beliefs that are driving you towards your goals and they link directly to your Mission Statement.
Stephen Covey speaks about the value of taking yourself through this process regularly as part of his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. Writing a personal mission statement is part of Habit 2, Begin with the End in Mind. He says this exercise focuses us on "what you want to be (character), and do (contributions and achievements) and on the values and principles upon which being and doing are based".
I have adapted Covey's activity somewhat, but the general principles is the same, and you would be well rewarded to visit his original text for a full review on this topic.
Wisdom No. 17
Get clear about your life purpose and find ways daily to bring it into being in who you are and what you do.
Friday, June 25, 2010
Now is the Season
A few years ago I moved to the Northern Rivers in Northern NSW from Brisbane, which had been my home for over 10 years. One thing that has really struck me pleasantly is how noticeable are the seasons down here. Whereas places like Brisbane and Townsville, my home prior to Brisbane, really only have 2 seasons: the hot season and the wet season. Anyway, apart from enjoying having a real winter, and a true Autumn etc, I am keen to make a point about following the seasons in our daily life. It seems like common sense to dress warmly in Winter, and we are drawn to relaxing at the beach in Summer, while Spring takes us into the parks to gaze at the flowers and listen to the birds.
But have you considered that seasons apply in our lives in other ways. For instance, last year for me was a season of going slow, being very internal, working less than ever, long walks on the beach, and a great deal of solitude. This year my life has changed dramatically, and a season of abundance has sprung up all around me; it is stimulating, joyful, playful and much more related. I heard someone the other day talk of having a season of focusing on their inner life, and feeling the need to push relationships into the background for a while. And someone else I know is going through a season of lazy-slow down time. Once upon a time this person was a real over-achiever, but now they have stopped working almost completely, they feel compelled to lie around and read or go surfing and they seem to have lost all signs of ambition.
There are seasons to our lives as surely as there are seasons to nature, and to go against them doesn't make any sense. However, we often feel pressured by expectations and commitments that leave little room for the unfolding change of seasons. It can be hard to go with a season of doing nothing, when there is a mortgage to be paid down, or an internal critic to fend off. It can be challenging to withdraw from loved ones to spend the time relating deeply to one's inner world. Ourselves and others may try to make us feel guilty or strange for making such a choice. There may be pressure for things to remain consistent, there may be people relying on you.... Let's face it there are innumerable pressures and expectations which we inevitably give into while 'the season for whatever' quietly slips away!
Wisdom No 16
Allow yourself to notice and embrace the changing seasons of your inner and outer life. Allow expectations, pressures and criticisms to drop and trust in the wisdom of nature as it expresses itself through you. Allow the season to be, even if the reason for it cannot be fully determined. Time will demonstrate the wisdom of every season.
But have you considered that seasons apply in our lives in other ways. For instance, last year for me was a season of going slow, being very internal, working less than ever, long walks on the beach, and a great deal of solitude. This year my life has changed dramatically, and a season of abundance has sprung up all around me; it is stimulating, joyful, playful and much more related. I heard someone the other day talk of having a season of focusing on their inner life, and feeling the need to push relationships into the background for a while. And someone else I know is going through a season of lazy-slow down time. Once upon a time this person was a real over-achiever, but now they have stopped working almost completely, they feel compelled to lie around and read or go surfing and they seem to have lost all signs of ambition.
There are seasons to our lives as surely as there are seasons to nature, and to go against them doesn't make any sense. However, we often feel pressured by expectations and commitments that leave little room for the unfolding change of seasons. It can be hard to go with a season of doing nothing, when there is a mortgage to be paid down, or an internal critic to fend off. It can be challenging to withdraw from loved ones to spend the time relating deeply to one's inner world. Ourselves and others may try to make us feel guilty or strange for making such a choice. There may be pressure for things to remain consistent, there may be people relying on you.... Let's face it there are innumerable pressures and expectations which we inevitably give into while 'the season for whatever' quietly slips away!
Wisdom No 16
Allow yourself to notice and embrace the changing seasons of your inner and outer life. Allow expectations, pressures and criticisms to drop and trust in the wisdom of nature as it expresses itself through you. Allow the season to be, even if the reason for it cannot be fully determined. Time will demonstrate the wisdom of every season.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Perfectly Imperfect
“In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways, and they're still beautiful.”
Alice Walker, American Writer
My entire life, I have struggled with perfectionism, which I define as the futile yet compulsive attempt to reach perfection, or to cease all activity for fear of never reaching it. Perfectionism both drives us relentlessly and cripples us completely! I have met perfectionists who could do nothing that really mattered, because their fears of failure kept them from action. And I have met perfectionists who push themselves endlessly toward whatever is their current goal in life, so that they exhaust themselves and often those around them.
Living with perfectionism is a nightmare of endless proportions. Because perfection is unobtainable, the proverbial dangling carrot, always temptingly out of reach, one is compelled to keep striving, trying, working, changing, growing, moving and seeking in order to come close to it. The irrational belief tells you that you should be able to reach that carrot; you should be perfect! If only perfection could be reached, then we perfectionists might all take a deep breath, if only for a minute, until the next challenge, the next glaring omission in our life, calls our efforts forth.
But secretly we all know that Perfection does not exist. It is a mirage - a distant falsity that can never be touched. Why do we strive for it. For me personally, because I wanted to be loved. More than anything I wanted to be loved, and somehow, early in my life I made a connection between my worth and this false conception of perfection. If only I was perfect, then I would be lovable. I suspect this essential drive underlies many people's perfectionist strivings.
I have worked a lot on myself in the past 20 years, and have found a place of peace with my inner perfectionist. My strategy, evolved on many therapists couches: I ignore it! Sure, I can see that all that pushing has allowed me to achieve a great deal, and learn many things in my life, so perhaps there have been some benefits. But actually, I am learning more now that I am less hard on myself. Life is a joy rather than a test (a test that can only be failed)!
There is great wisdom in Alice Walkers' words above: We don't expect perfection in nature, and yet it is perfect just as it is. We can choose to adopt this same philosophy for ourselves, as we too are simply an expression of nature. Perfectly Imperfect.
Wisdom No 15
Let go of perfectionist impulses. Allow yourself to be a part of nature. Trust that your peculiarities of body, mind and spirit are just what the planet needs, and then look to where those qualities are needed.
Alice Walker, American Writer
My entire life, I have struggled with perfectionism, which I define as the futile yet compulsive attempt to reach perfection, or to cease all activity for fear of never reaching it. Perfectionism both drives us relentlessly and cripples us completely! I have met perfectionists who could do nothing that really mattered, because their fears of failure kept them from action. And I have met perfectionists who push themselves endlessly toward whatever is their current goal in life, so that they exhaust themselves and often those around them.
Living with perfectionism is a nightmare of endless proportions. Because perfection is unobtainable, the proverbial dangling carrot, always temptingly out of reach, one is compelled to keep striving, trying, working, changing, growing, moving and seeking in order to come close to it. The irrational belief tells you that you should be able to reach that carrot; you should be perfect! If only perfection could be reached, then we perfectionists might all take a deep breath, if only for a minute, until the next challenge, the next glaring omission in our life, calls our efforts forth.
But secretly we all know that Perfection does not exist. It is a mirage - a distant falsity that can never be touched. Why do we strive for it. For me personally, because I wanted to be loved. More than anything I wanted to be loved, and somehow, early in my life I made a connection between my worth and this false conception of perfection. If only I was perfect, then I would be lovable. I suspect this essential drive underlies many people's perfectionist strivings.
I have worked a lot on myself in the past 20 years, and have found a place of peace with my inner perfectionist. My strategy, evolved on many therapists couches: I ignore it! Sure, I can see that all that pushing has allowed me to achieve a great deal, and learn many things in my life, so perhaps there have been some benefits. But actually, I am learning more now that I am less hard on myself. Life is a joy rather than a test (a test that can only be failed)!
There is great wisdom in Alice Walkers' words above: We don't expect perfection in nature, and yet it is perfect just as it is. We can choose to adopt this same philosophy for ourselves, as we too are simply an expression of nature. Perfectly Imperfect.
Wisdom No 15
Let go of perfectionist impulses. Allow yourself to be a part of nature. Trust that your peculiarities of body, mind and spirit are just what the planet needs, and then look to where those qualities are needed.
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Empty Mind, Empty Heart
Wisdom No 14
"When your mind is empty of prejudices you can see the Tao. When your heart is empty of desires you can follow the Tao."
From Master Lu Teachings
"When your mind is empty of prejudices you can see the Tao. When your heart is empty of desires you can follow the Tao."
From Master Lu Teachings
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Desperately seeking...
"In life you need either inspiration or desperation."
Tony Robbins
Desperation has been given a bad name. I am not sure why or when that happened, but I think its important that we recognise the power of our desperation to put us in touch with and realise our deepest yearnings.
People, especially women are scared to look desperate, especially about relationship. When it comes to love many have been told to act tough and independent, whether single or coupled, as though they do not care; could take love or leave love, when inside they are burning for deep and passionate love.
Others have been taught to act insecure and uncertain, as though they dare not ask for what they want; as though it is offending someone to have longing. Women have been taught to fear their own desires, to be ashamed of them or hide them or override them.
What signal does this send to the world - it says that we do not really care if our yearning for love is realised? And then we wonder why love is not manifesting in our lives the way we want it to! If we can only see that this is because, at least in part, we are too scared to let ourselves and the world know how much we want it! We expect life to read our minds, but our minds are confused.
Now, when I speak of desperation, I am not talking about unconscious throwing yourself at any morsel of love that comes your way. Flirting with the first person who shows you some attention, dubious as that attention may be. And I'm not referring to being needy - where we look to another to fill us up and ignore the work involved in filling up on ourselves.
I am talking about loud, clear and conscious desperation. The kind of desperation that says: I know what I want, and I am sending a strong signal out to the Universe about it. The kind of desperation that says: I am sick of not being met, and I am ready to bring myself fully into the adventure of relationship, with all the joys and challenges that it brings. The kind of desperation that says: My expectations are not too high, but they may be too high for you, so I will search for someone who meets my expectations. The kind of desperation that says: I would rather be alone for the rest of my days that persist with unfulfilling relationships.
This is a strong stance, and possibly not for everyone. But if that is what you are truly yearning for in your heart and soul - then how are you serving yourself to ignore or down-play that truth! And how is the 'other' to find you when you are acting like a person without such a deep yearning. Presumably they will be searching for someone in touch with their yearning and ready to love fiercely.
If you do not recognise yourself, then how do you expect to be recognised?
Wisdom No 13
Inspiration and desperation are integrally linked, together representing the cognitive and emotive expression of our deepest longings and desires. Be fearlessly and consciously desperate for what you really want. Sit deep inside your longing until you are familiar with every part of it. Express your deepest wishes and allow the Universe to answer.
Tony Robbins
Desperation has been given a bad name. I am not sure why or when that happened, but I think its important that we recognise the power of our desperation to put us in touch with and realise our deepest yearnings.
People, especially women are scared to look desperate, especially about relationship. When it comes to love many have been told to act tough and independent, whether single or coupled, as though they do not care; could take love or leave love, when inside they are burning for deep and passionate love.
Others have been taught to act insecure and uncertain, as though they dare not ask for what they want; as though it is offending someone to have longing. Women have been taught to fear their own desires, to be ashamed of them or hide them or override them.
What signal does this send to the world - it says that we do not really care if our yearning for love is realised? And then we wonder why love is not manifesting in our lives the way we want it to! If we can only see that this is because, at least in part, we are too scared to let ourselves and the world know how much we want it! We expect life to read our minds, but our minds are confused.
Now, when I speak of desperation, I am not talking about unconscious throwing yourself at any morsel of love that comes your way. Flirting with the first person who shows you some attention, dubious as that attention may be. And I'm not referring to being needy - where we look to another to fill us up and ignore the work involved in filling up on ourselves.
I am talking about loud, clear and conscious desperation. The kind of desperation that says: I know what I want, and I am sending a strong signal out to the Universe about it. The kind of desperation that says: I am sick of not being met, and I am ready to bring myself fully into the adventure of relationship, with all the joys and challenges that it brings. The kind of desperation that says: My expectations are not too high, but they may be too high for you, so I will search for someone who meets my expectations. The kind of desperation that says: I would rather be alone for the rest of my days that persist with unfulfilling relationships.
This is a strong stance, and possibly not for everyone. But if that is what you are truly yearning for in your heart and soul - then how are you serving yourself to ignore or down-play that truth! And how is the 'other' to find you when you are acting like a person without such a deep yearning. Presumably they will be searching for someone in touch with their yearning and ready to love fiercely.
If you do not recognise yourself, then how do you expect to be recognised?
Wisdom No 13
Inspiration and desperation are integrally linked, together representing the cognitive and emotive expression of our deepest longings and desires. Be fearlessly and consciously desperate for what you really want. Sit deep inside your longing until you are familiar with every part of it. Express your deepest wishes and allow the Universe to answer.
Monday, June 21, 2010
What irritates, transforms
"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."
Carl Gustav Jung
In all my years of studying psychology and working on my own self, this has been one of the most helpful insights and the greatest wisdoms. It is powerful, transformative and empowering. When we find ourselves feeling irritated by another, instead of being a victim to feeling annoyed; rather than simply watch and wish that the 'other' would change and be less bothersome - we can take it internally and transform the situation.
Let me give a simple example from my own life. A few years ago, I found myself feeling mightily irritated by everyone driving a massive 4WD in the suburbs of Brisbane, where I lived at the time. Truthfully, they gave me the shits! I would bitch and groan about them constantly, to the point of annoying even myself. oh dear! Anyway, one day, at last, I decided to work on it, using the skills I had learnt through my process-oriented psychology training...
The basic skill set here is to amplify the very thing that is disturbing you, until you understand the essence or deepest energy of that thing/person. Then you find how you can use that energy more in your own life.
So to amplify this situation, I actually pretended to be a 4WD Toyota Prado! And instantly, I felt how amazing it felt to be BIG and to take up space. I felt indestructible. I felt powerful. I could go where I wanted and not be bothered by little bumps in the road. I really enjoyed the sensation of taking up space - which at the time was completely against my way of being. I was more naturally shy, I tended to defer to others, and make sure their needs were taken care of first, and I was still struggling to find my voice and my power in the world.
No wonder I was so annoyed by these cars and their drivers!
I did not need to even ask myself how I could take on the energy of the Prado in my own life - it was obvious! I immediately gave myself permission to take up more space, to say more, to be more, to connect to my personal power more. I decided that every time I felt annoyed by a Prado driver, I would remember to thank them for teaching me how to be bigger.
Now the important thing with this practice is that you need to find the deep energy, or the 'essence' as Mindell calls it. It is about the underlying energy, not the surface level manifestation,as in my example, the lesson was not to go and by a Prado and take up space in that way. But in finding the energy of the thing that annoyed me, I could use that energy in a way that I determined. Because energy is neutral. Energy is Pure. Only people corrupt energy, specifically the ego and pain that people carry around and mistake for their true selves (thanks Eckhart).
For example power is neutral - although many people are disconnected from their power because they were at some point in their lives hurt by someone who was abusive with their power. But power wasn't the problem - power is simply a natural energy that was corrupted and misused.
I often use the example of fire to explain this: Fire can be highly destructive if used unwisely and it can be incredibly supportive if used with care and attention. The same is true with any energy that exists in the universe. So there is nothing to fear in ourselves. If we can be conscious and transform our pain, then we can pick up any energy and use it consciously and lovingly,
Wisdom No 12
Understand yourself more deeply, and access more power and energy through picking up the essence of the things or people that annoy and disturb you!
Carl Gustav Jung
In all my years of studying psychology and working on my own self, this has been one of the most helpful insights and the greatest wisdoms. It is powerful, transformative and empowering. When we find ourselves feeling irritated by another, instead of being a victim to feeling annoyed; rather than simply watch and wish that the 'other' would change and be less bothersome - we can take it internally and transform the situation.
Let me give a simple example from my own life. A few years ago, I found myself feeling mightily irritated by everyone driving a massive 4WD in the suburbs of Brisbane, where I lived at the time. Truthfully, they gave me the shits! I would bitch and groan about them constantly, to the point of annoying even myself. oh dear! Anyway, one day, at last, I decided to work on it, using the skills I had learnt through my process-oriented psychology training...
The basic skill set here is to amplify the very thing that is disturbing you, until you understand the essence or deepest energy of that thing/person. Then you find how you can use that energy more in your own life.
So to amplify this situation, I actually pretended to be a 4WD Toyota Prado! And instantly, I felt how amazing it felt to be BIG and to take up space. I felt indestructible. I felt powerful. I could go where I wanted and not be bothered by little bumps in the road. I really enjoyed the sensation of taking up space - which at the time was completely against my way of being. I was more naturally shy, I tended to defer to others, and make sure their needs were taken care of first, and I was still struggling to find my voice and my power in the world.
No wonder I was so annoyed by these cars and their drivers!
I did not need to even ask myself how I could take on the energy of the Prado in my own life - it was obvious! I immediately gave myself permission to take up more space, to say more, to be more, to connect to my personal power more. I decided that every time I felt annoyed by a Prado driver, I would remember to thank them for teaching me how to be bigger.
Now the important thing with this practice is that you need to find the deep energy, or the 'essence' as Mindell calls it. It is about the underlying energy, not the surface level manifestation,as in my example, the lesson was not to go and by a Prado and take up space in that way. But in finding the energy of the thing that annoyed me, I could use that energy in a way that I determined. Because energy is neutral. Energy is Pure. Only people corrupt energy, specifically the ego and pain that people carry around and mistake for their true selves (thanks Eckhart).
For example power is neutral - although many people are disconnected from their power because they were at some point in their lives hurt by someone who was abusive with their power. But power wasn't the problem - power is simply a natural energy that was corrupted and misused.
I often use the example of fire to explain this: Fire can be highly destructive if used unwisely and it can be incredibly supportive if used with care and attention. The same is true with any energy that exists in the universe. So there is nothing to fear in ourselves. If we can be conscious and transform our pain, then we can pick up any energy and use it consciously and lovingly,
Wisdom No 12
Understand yourself more deeply, and access more power and energy through picking up the essence of the things or people that annoy and disturb you!
Sunday, June 20, 2010
The World Will Come To You
There's nothing to do - the world will come to you.
I woke up this morning from a dream with this phrase in my head...i think it's wording is original, although the sentiment is ancient. I like that it rhymes! The phrase taps into the wisdom that when you are on your true path (following the Tao), and have the right intention, then the right opportunities will simply come your way. The ancient Taoists talked of non-doing and effortless action. In common vernacular today, we speak of going with the flow. This is a place where we feel life is just happening with no effort on our part, and yet, as the great book of Taoist philosophy, the Tao Te Ching, articulates "nothing is left undone".
In my own life, I feel this more and more, as I let go of trying to construct my life the way I think it should be, drop expectations of myself and others, bring my awareness into the present, and follow the Tao, the path that has energy in the moment, then there is a sense of everything happening effortlessly and more being accomplished than ever before. Instead of working against the energy of the universe around us, which would be like trying to push over a mountain or change the direction of the ocean swell, we begin to tune into and work with the energy and allow its force to carry us to our destination, as the wind carries a sailing boat. Of course, we can still steer, direct the boat in a general direction, our goals if they are true will be part of the Tao anyway, but me cannot push against the power of the winds and tides and exhaust ourselves, or we can go with them... use them... allow them.
Some might have heard of that video "The Secret", which I confess to not having viewed, but from the reports of trusted friends, I believe says that we can basically manifest anything we want if we set an intention. Please correct me if you gleaned something else from this film! But this seemed to be how people generally responded to it. I want to say that it is not as simple as "you can manifest what you want". In fact I am only realising that it only looks like we have powers of manifestation, but it would be closer to the truth to say that when we are clearly on our path, tuned in to what we are here for, then the world comes to us in an effortless way. It is the Universe that has the endless capacity for creation and manifestation, and to me in this moment it feels a bit egotistic to say that we create. I feel it would be more accurate to say that we allow the creative potential to come through, that we get out of the way of the creative force by tuning into what is waiting to be created, and in this way things of truth are manifested in a miraculous way.
Not everyone can manifest a 6 bedroom house and BMW just by setting an intention for it, and this will be the confusion and the disappointment in video's such as "The Secret". However, we each have a unique journey and purpose while here on this planet, and this purpose can be brought forth in numerous ways, and it is always ready to unfold if we can learn to tap into what our purpose actually is (not what our ego would like it to be). It is like an essence or energy that wants to be lived or realised. The way I have begun to speak of it is that our deep nature wants to find expression through this world.
Wisdom No 11
Through tuning into your true purpose, and through right intention, you can allow the world to bring you everything you need to fulfill your path and purpose in this life. In this way, life will begin to feel effortless and people, events and things will begin to manifest easily to support you on your journey.
I woke up this morning from a dream with this phrase in my head...i think it's wording is original, although the sentiment is ancient. I like that it rhymes! The phrase taps into the wisdom that when you are on your true path (following the Tao), and have the right intention, then the right opportunities will simply come your way. The ancient Taoists talked of non-doing and effortless action. In common vernacular today, we speak of going with the flow. This is a place where we feel life is just happening with no effort on our part, and yet, as the great book of Taoist philosophy, the Tao Te Ching, articulates "nothing is left undone".
In my own life, I feel this more and more, as I let go of trying to construct my life the way I think it should be, drop expectations of myself and others, bring my awareness into the present, and follow the Tao, the path that has energy in the moment, then there is a sense of everything happening effortlessly and more being accomplished than ever before. Instead of working against the energy of the universe around us, which would be like trying to push over a mountain or change the direction of the ocean swell, we begin to tune into and work with the energy and allow its force to carry us to our destination, as the wind carries a sailing boat. Of course, we can still steer, direct the boat in a general direction, our goals if they are true will be part of the Tao anyway, but me cannot push against the power of the winds and tides and exhaust ourselves, or we can go with them... use them... allow them.
Some might have heard of that video "The Secret", which I confess to not having viewed, but from the reports of trusted friends, I believe says that we can basically manifest anything we want if we set an intention. Please correct me if you gleaned something else from this film! But this seemed to be how people generally responded to it. I want to say that it is not as simple as "you can manifest what you want". In fact I am only realising that it only looks like we have powers of manifestation, but it would be closer to the truth to say that when we are clearly on our path, tuned in to what we are here for, then the world comes to us in an effortless way. It is the Universe that has the endless capacity for creation and manifestation, and to me in this moment it feels a bit egotistic to say that we create. I feel it would be more accurate to say that we allow the creative potential to come through, that we get out of the way of the creative force by tuning into what is waiting to be created, and in this way things of truth are manifested in a miraculous way.
Not everyone can manifest a 6 bedroom house and BMW just by setting an intention for it, and this will be the confusion and the disappointment in video's such as "The Secret". However, we each have a unique journey and purpose while here on this planet, and this purpose can be brought forth in numerous ways, and it is always ready to unfold if we can learn to tap into what our purpose actually is (not what our ego would like it to be). It is like an essence or energy that wants to be lived or realised. The way I have begun to speak of it is that our deep nature wants to find expression through this world.
Wisdom No 11
Through tuning into your true purpose, and through right intention, you can allow the world to bring you everything you need to fulfill your path and purpose in this life. In this way, life will begin to feel effortless and people, events and things will begin to manifest easily to support you on your journey.
Thursday, June 17, 2010
The World Mirrors The Self
My Taoist roots are showing in this ancient wisdom. I love Taoism! It's the only spirituality that makes complete sense to me. I appreciate it may not be for everyone, and that's your prerogative. For me it fits like the proverbial glove. The Taoist's believed in the concept that the inner world is mirrored in the outer world and vice-versa; outer in inner.
I was reminded of this multiple times today; the world we carry around in our inner landscape inevitably reflects the world we find in our outer landscape. I mean that's kind of incredible when you think about it! Because essentially what it means is that we can influence our world situation by changing and evolving at an internal level. This is Ghandi saying "Be the change you want to see in the world". If you want to be treated differently; want a better relationship; more fulfilment in your work; you can start by looking internally and investigating how this outer situation is reflective of your inner psyche. It can be hard to do this alone, so a trusted friend or therapist can be useful here to help see the patterns clearly.
This philosophy is so empowering, because the control is back in your hands. Let me be clear about one very important thing, and I had this discussion the other day with someone, this is not the same as saying we can control all external events, or prevent illness or tragedy. I think the philosphy which says "You haven't evolved enough that's why you have problem X or symptom Y" is incredibly disempowering and only serves to make people feel guilty for finding themselves facing some of the realities of life, like accidents, terminal illness, abusive relationships".
Life is not determined by cause-effect principles alone. Therefore we are not to blame for choosing a partner who turns out to be abusive. But if we identify we are in such a situation, our power to change it may lie in understanding how our inner situation has kept us from leaving. Does the knowledge that we are in an abusive relationship enable us to leave - if not, then it is likely that there is an internal dynamic of inner abuse - a place where we are not loving to ourselves - the abuser is an internal role which we must take on and defeat first!
NB: Arnold Mindell and his process-oriented psychology makes clear this link and has developed some incredible techniques for working with our inner life.
Wisdom No 10
Find methods to evolve your internal environment; if a life situation is bothering you, there may be some inner correlations which can help transform the outer problem.
I was reminded of this multiple times today; the world we carry around in our inner landscape inevitably reflects the world we find in our outer landscape. I mean that's kind of incredible when you think about it! Because essentially what it means is that we can influence our world situation by changing and evolving at an internal level. This is Ghandi saying "Be the change you want to see in the world". If you want to be treated differently; want a better relationship; more fulfilment in your work; you can start by looking internally and investigating how this outer situation is reflective of your inner psyche. It can be hard to do this alone, so a trusted friend or therapist can be useful here to help see the patterns clearly.
This philosophy is so empowering, because the control is back in your hands. Let me be clear about one very important thing, and I had this discussion the other day with someone, this is not the same as saying we can control all external events, or prevent illness or tragedy. I think the philosphy which says "You haven't evolved enough that's why you have problem X or symptom Y" is incredibly disempowering and only serves to make people feel guilty for finding themselves facing some of the realities of life, like accidents, terminal illness, abusive relationships".
Life is not determined by cause-effect principles alone. Therefore we are not to blame for choosing a partner who turns out to be abusive. But if we identify we are in such a situation, our power to change it may lie in understanding how our inner situation has kept us from leaving. Does the knowledge that we are in an abusive relationship enable us to leave - if not, then it is likely that there is an internal dynamic of inner abuse - a place where we are not loving to ourselves - the abuser is an internal role which we must take on and defeat first!
NB: Arnold Mindell and his process-oriented psychology makes clear this link and has developed some incredible techniques for working with our inner life.
Wisdom No 10
Find methods to evolve your internal environment; if a life situation is bothering you, there may be some inner correlations which can help transform the outer problem.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Finding Wu Wei
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I have to laugh at the timing of setting up this blog...That's right, it was about 10 days before I had to move home and office. Of course it would have been wildly optimistic to imagine that I would be able to keep blogging every day through the adventure that is "Moving House". So my blog went quiet for the past week or so! This was a good lesson in "letting go and going with", tuning into the moment, and following the energy of what is easy. The Taoists call this Wu Wei - it is "the concept of knowing when to act and when not to act" (thank you Wikipdeia). Wu Wei implies that everything has its own timing. That timing is inherent within, not imposed from without. To follow Wu Wei we need to accept that we cannot control everything and just do what we can.
Of course, I could have pressured myself to do it! Reminded myself of my committment to myself, to my readers (none so far :)) etc. I have done this in the past...bullied or belittled myself; criticized and berated myself...the only outcome of this is a lowering of one's self esteem and happiness. So this time, I decided to just let it go and encouraged myself to pick it up again if and when it felt easy.
Just because we start something - does that mean we should finish it? At what cost? Continuing to write because I "should" would have created resentment and bad writing! We are often rigid with ourselves. We have been taught the value of committment to projects and other people - but what about committment to oneself? If you have not got your best interests at heart - then who has?
So here I am blogging again! And despite the title of this blog (which implies a wisdom every day), in actuality, there will be a wisdom every day that Wu Wei allows it!
Wisdom No 9
Forcing oneself to follow through results in nothing more than self-abuse. Trust that what you need is also what is called for in the greater scheme of things and tune into the energy of the moment. Allow yourself the fluidity to change your mind and go against the plan if that's what you believe is required.
I have to laugh at the timing of setting up this blog...That's right, it was about 10 days before I had to move home and office. Of course it would have been wildly optimistic to imagine that I would be able to keep blogging every day through the adventure that is "Moving House". So my blog went quiet for the past week or so! This was a good lesson in "letting go and going with", tuning into the moment, and following the energy of what is easy. The Taoists call this Wu Wei - it is "the concept of knowing when to act and when not to act" (thank you Wikipdeia). Wu Wei implies that everything has its own timing. That timing is inherent within, not imposed from without. To follow Wu Wei we need to accept that we cannot control everything and just do what we can.
Of course, I could have pressured myself to do it! Reminded myself of my committment to myself, to my readers (none so far :)) etc. I have done this in the past...bullied or belittled myself; criticized and berated myself...the only outcome of this is a lowering of one's self esteem and happiness. So this time, I decided to just let it go and encouraged myself to pick it up again if and when it felt easy.
Just because we start something - does that mean we should finish it? At what cost? Continuing to write because I "should" would have created resentment and bad writing! We are often rigid with ourselves. We have been taught the value of committment to projects and other people - but what about committment to oneself? If you have not got your best interests at heart - then who has?
So here I am blogging again! And despite the title of this blog (which implies a wisdom every day), in actuality, there will be a wisdom every day that Wu Wei allows it!
Wisdom No 9
Forcing oneself to follow through results in nothing more than self-abuse. Trust that what you need is also what is called for in the greater scheme of things and tune into the energy of the moment. Allow yourself the fluidity to change your mind and go against the plan if that's what you believe is required.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
What You Focus On Expands
I can't recall where I first heard this expression but I love it! What we do with our attention, our awareness is so powerful. Where we focus our attention determines what we see, or how we feel and how we act. Mindfulness training uses this principle to help people deal with chronic physical pain. If you have bodily pain and you put your attention on it, the pain will tend to amplify in both intensity and duration. However, if you instead choose to focus your attention somewhere else, the pain will do just the opposite.
The very same principle applies to our emotional pain. And Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, teaches us to place our attention on our higher self, and divert it from the endless rumbling and groaning of our ego and pain body (worth a read if you haven't yet).
Wisdom No 8
Choose where you focus your attention and make a difference in how you experience your life.
The very same principle applies to our emotional pain. And Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, teaches us to place our attention on our higher self, and divert it from the endless rumbling and groaning of our ego and pain body (worth a read if you haven't yet).
Wisdom No 8
Choose where you focus your attention and make a difference in how you experience your life.
Friday, June 4, 2010
Act Without Hesitation
Surfing is one of my greatest teachers and I am constantly learning invaluable lessons from my sessions with the ocean. I am returning to surfing after about a 2 year break, and one thing that I am really aware of is the importance of not hesitating when you decide to go for a wave. When you are in the right position and the wave is yours, you must not hesitate for even an instant. Trust your instincts and go for it. If you hesitate the wave will eat you! You will come off, do yourself an injury or even cause an injury to someone else.
This lessons is applicable in all areas of life as well. Just like the ocean, life has energetic waves, whether they are in conversation, relationship, our work life, pursuing our passions and our creativity. I notice that if I have an idea or an impulse to do or say something in my work or personal relationships, but then I hesitate, it is as though I have thrown myself and life a little out of alignment and that I have to work much harder to get the conversation, relationship or situation back on track.
Not hesitating requires trusting oneself, trusting one's reading of the energy of the moment and having the necessary skill to follow through with the required action. In surfing, as in life, we can develop all the skills; listening to our instincts, tuning into the moment, knowing when the wave is ours and of course we can develop the necessary life skills for situations so that we can act with confidence when the time is right.
Wisdom No 7
Cultivate the art of not hesitating. Learn to read the energy of the moment and develop your intention to rise to those moments with all your availale skills and energy.
This lessons is applicable in all areas of life as well. Just like the ocean, life has energetic waves, whether they are in conversation, relationship, our work life, pursuing our passions and our creativity. I notice that if I have an idea or an impulse to do or say something in my work or personal relationships, but then I hesitate, it is as though I have thrown myself and life a little out of alignment and that I have to work much harder to get the conversation, relationship or situation back on track.
Not hesitating requires trusting oneself, trusting one's reading of the energy of the moment and having the necessary skill to follow through with the required action. In surfing, as in life, we can develop all the skills; listening to our instincts, tuning into the moment, knowing when the wave is ours and of course we can develop the necessary life skills for situations so that we can act with confidence when the time is right.
Wisdom No 7
Cultivate the art of not hesitating. Learn to read the energy of the moment and develop your intention to rise to those moments with all your availale skills and energy.
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